Marriage Is The Institution Of The Past Essay Rewritten

I had to rewrite my essay for a few reasons blah blah... Anyway, here's the final version:

Marriage Is the Institution of the Past

"I am never going to get married." I realize that this sentence sounds quite radical but at

this point I am perfectly willing to sign my name under it, especially when I see so many

marriages falling apart and ending in a divorce. It seems to me that people do not realize that

when they get married, they actually sign a contract that is supposed to be honoured. Right

now, I am pretty sure I would not be able to do that. I might change my mind some day but I

sincerely doubt that I will.

There are a few reasons I have against getting married. It seems to me that no one takes marriage seriously these days. The newest statistics show that every fourth marriage ends in a divorce today. To me it shows that people get married without actually thinking it through, without taking into serious consideration what getting married really means. A lot of people cannot see beyond the wedding day. They do not realize that marriage is actually what follows the wedding, that marriage is living day after day with the same person seven days a week, fifty-two weeks a year. So many times it happens that people really get to know each other when they start living together and then realize the other person is not who they thought they were. This leads to a divorce so often and it does not really matter if the marriage does not work since the divorce is not shameful anymore. That means that, instead of working on their marriage, people tend to take the easy way out and simply give up.

Marriage is supposed to be an institution that lasts. It is supposed to last more than a few years, that is, but in the world where people get married because a child is on the way, it is no wonder when the marriage falls apart before the child gets its teeth. Of course, bringing children up in a stable home probably fills one with a sense of accomplishment. However, a lot of married couples think that a child will make them closer or even make the marriage stronger. In fact, if a marriage is not strong enough by itself, having another child will often lead to its end. It must be wonderful to have a partner to lean on while struggling with the problems of everyday life. Further more, growing old with someone has to be much easier than growing old alone. Then again, people tend to develop gross habits as they get old. I cannot imagine living with someone who forgets to change their undrewear on regular basis. I could not possibly spend my life with someone who snores either. I have a very light sleep and I would be awaken by snoring every single night. I am sure that would drive me mad in no time.

I believe that getting married to someone requires a great amount of courage and maturity because love is simply not enough. People cannot live on love alone and the truth is, love fades away. One has to be ready to compromise a lot and I am not so sure people are willing to do that today. I know I am not. I am the first one to leave when the going gets tough. I can't even imagine making a commitment to one person for the rest of my life. With that in mind, I prefer not getting married at all to signing a contract that I know I could never honour, not "till death do us part" anyway.

Marriage is not what it used to be. It is taken lightly and it does not have the significance nor the value it used to have in the past. When marriage is not the only option for raising a family or having financial security, more and more people decide against it. Marriage is turning into an institution from the past. I believe it is outdated. That is why that is exactly where it should stay – in the past.